When we are irritated we often close down, we attempt to speed ourselves through the annoyance as quickly as possible. Dismiss it and try to forget about it. When I explore my annoyances further I need to own up to that underneath the irritation is a desire, or commitment for a better way. Perhaps something that I was expecting has been unfulfilled. Underneath the irritation lingers a hope or a dream and sometimes a full blown commitment that things can be different. Irritations are extremely important. Friction is part of life. Friction used well is magical; it creates sparks and fire, it smooths rough edges; it creates openings where there wasn’t one.
The more I understand my irritations the more I can make changes to resolve them. Unresolved they live like a squeaky hinge, haunting me. My first challenge is to articulate it to myself. As I dig at the layers, the irritation dissolves. Anger dwindles to frustration and then to a gentle annoyance. Clarity is found. As the irritation disappears I am left with a growing understanding, which leads to contentment. I am left with insight and wisdom, and often an action plan.