In fairy tales the heroic slayed dragons and rescued princesses. Their life went beyond self-serving interests to extending beyond themselves to aid others. Protecting, guiding, and assisting the less fortunate made them noble regardless of their success. We salute their cause and their effort. Their purpose gave them a reason to move forward into areas of discomfort, overcoming possible fears, and encountering less than idyllic conditions.
The size of one’s purpose isn’t critical. Providing a focus and direction for one’s actions is key. A desire to improve or change current circumstances for another can be enough. Something as simple as parents creating Halloween costumes, or giving someone a ride can be enough to stimulate the heroic mindset. In those favour-granting moments where we have a task that extends beyond ourselves our energy shifts.
Living with a purpose allows us access to new levels of creativity and ingenuity. Ideas and solutions just emerge enabling us to troubleshoot our way to a solution. Partnering with those around us creating forged bonds, our connectedness in intention overrides petty differences. A synergy is created through our commitment to something more. Having a purpose makes all that we do meaningful.
The root word of loss is linked with losing. We associate both with negativity. Early on in life we we learn losing is rarely the preferred option. Loss is usually associated with something negative; a possession disappears, tie or opportunities squandered. Losing is not what we want. Yet by not winning it does not mean that through loosing we are not gaining.
When we loose something, we are stuck by the absence of what was or could be. We forget how often loosing can be a good thing. We have yet to adjust to the new opportunity.
Dieters celebrate lost weight. Losing your job, a possession, an opportunity, or friend, can be a good thing. Although the initial perspective may be negative, for terminated individuals, the end perspective can be more empowering as there new positions exceeded their previous positions. Reflecting on my losses in life, I can see how it became a good thing. When truth is told, typically sluggishness was present. The lost item no longer enhanced my life and truth be told – the loss was often a blessing in disguise. New opportunities quickly surfaced and found their way into the void. Loss typically allows for the correction of realigning yourself with your potential. Through loss we reflect on what is important and realize new opportunities await.
“Start again, start again” the words reverberate through the speakers filling the quiet meditation hall. That is the way with meditation. We connect with breath briefly before the mind wanders off on yet another tangent.
Each time we sit the opportunity exists to start again, to start fresh. Whether it has been a split second or a few moments or if we are lucky a longer time frame before our focus wandered, we return to breath and start again. With tender awareness we accept that the mind will wander and with gentleness and compassion for self we start again.
I recall having a conversation with someone who was in addiction recovery where I taught yoga. He had ‘lapsed’ – we talked about it and how he now knew what another one of his triggers was and he was in an opportunity to Start Again. Our paths crossed about a year later. After another stint in a different recovery centre he was approaching one year of sobriety. This time more successful than the previous.
New Years Resolutions and many of the tasks on our to do lists or our goals and best intentions can be sidetracked in a myriad of ways. All that there is to do is Start Again.