Are you a rejector or a reflector?

Are you a rejector or a reflector?

Feedback can be given either to belittle and undermine someone or it can be given with a commitment to bring out the best.  It can be difficult to distinguish where it is coming from.  Regardless of how well we know the source, no one is immune from having an off day where, on a temporary superiority kick, their ego chooses to validate itself by being overly critical and attacking others.  Dealing with rudeness is a discussion for another day.  Here…

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Empowering others creates Self – Empowerment.

Empowering others creates Self – Empowerment.

Empowerment involves expanding our ability to give credit where credit is due, while encouraging hopes and dreams.  We treat others the way we treat ourselves.  Empowering others assists us in gaining more personal power for ourselves.  If we can acknowledge someone else, then we have the rudimentary ability to acknowledge ourselves on similar subject matter.  Through learning to encourage others more, we expand our capacity to encourage ourselves. Complimenting someone gives us the capacity to compliment ourselves.  Recognizing a job…

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Cultivate friendships that bring out the best in you.

Cultivate friendships that bring out the best in you.

For a myriad of reasons our friendships shift ongoingly throughout life.  Many changes occur in stride, others are more conscious. Friendships can become stale, or lose their zest. Occasionally you may want to assess your friendships. If you feel a lacking perhaps it’s time to cultivate things. If stagnate or drifting relationships cannot be reinvigorated then pursue other friendships. Look for individuals that have common interests or where there is matching intellectual or emotional depth.  Pursue individuals that can have…

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Two wrongs don’t make a right, but three lefts will.

Two wrongs don’t make a right, but three lefts will.

Discovering you have taken a wrong turn somewhere in life, do you know how to rectify the situation.  There are many ways to get yourself back on track.  If you take the above cliché literally – sometimes one action doesn’t correct the situation but several can. When we err we do not always know how to rectify the situation.  We sit in discomfort at the situation we find ourselves in.  We desire a fairy godmother to come by and make…

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Is your mind your friend?

Is your mind your friend?

The way some people avoid silence as if it was the plague, I often think that many have yet to make friends with themselves.  Unable to be with the thoughts that flit through their heads.  I’ve seen people prefer bad background noise over turning off the radio or television. We have heard about the power of positive thinking, and how optimism is better than pessimism, but knowing is not necessarily doing.  Your mind travels with you – always – dispensing…

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Digging at the irritations

Digging at the irritations

When we are irritated we often close down, we attempt to speed ourselves through the annoyance as quickly as possible. Dismiss it and try to forget about it. When I explore my annoyances further I need to own up to that underneath the irritation is a desire, or commitment for a better way. Perhaps something that I was expecting has been unfulfilled. Underneath the irritation lingers a hope or a dream and sometimes a full blown commitment that things can…

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Violent new beginnings

Violent new beginnings

Beginning stages can be violent or can create an upheaval. There are multiple examples throughout nature; mammals, birds, seeds, butterflies all emerge from a protective shell.  The cocoon that holds must break if birth is to occur.  There is a point in time when the protective womb that contains and nourishes us begins to confine us.  New territories must be pursued or we will be smothered.  Birth occurs when we venture forth. Snakes perpetually outgrow their old skins.  As humans…

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Travelling through life

Travelling through life

“What sets a canoeing expedition apart is that it purifies you more rapidly and inescapably than any other travel. Travel … in a canoe and you are already a child of nature.”  Pierre Elliott Trudeau Often when we travel we are oblivious to what is happening around us. Overly focused on our destination and  ‘are we there yet’  – we fail to notice the scenery along the way.   As a canoeist, I can appreciate Trudeau’s sentiments. Aside from the list…

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Food Grade Hydrogen Peroxide

Food Grade Hydrogen Peroxide

Hydration and Oxygenation are VERY important cornerstones for health maintenance and that much more important for healing. Hydration – We all know that drinking lots of fluids (ideally water, lemon water, or herbal tea) is a good thing and that ideally our urine should be clear or pale in colour – yellow urine is a sign of dehydration (B vitamins will turn urine yellow – but it is a different shade of yellow) Oxygenation – Remembering to take deep breaths…

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The Caveat of our locus of control

The Caveat of our locus of control

In leadership courses one talks about the difference between those with an internal locus of control as opposed to an external locus of control.   One’s locus of control is the perceived source of one’s outcomes in life. An internal locus of control is embodied in slogan’s like “just do it”. Our North American culture epitomizes that potential within people who believe “desire + effort = guaranteed success”. The lack of results is a result of inadequate effort and/or belief.  When…

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